Me-made jersey maxi! I didn't realise how big I'd got until I saw this picture...
As of last week, I'm off on maternity leave. So now I'm just waiting (patiently, so far) for the baby to make an appearance, though I've a few weeks to go til my due date. I've been trying to take it easy but also have so many different sewing projects I'd like to do. Plus this amazing super-hot weather makes it difficult to be too busy as I want to enjoy it. I can't tell you how thankful I am not to be in an office when the weather is like this, with an internal central heating system I was really struggling!
There's a few changes I'd like to make to the look of the blog which I may get around to making. Once the baby arrives I have no idea how my blogging schedule will go so I'll just have to take it as it comes. It's hard to imagine exactly how life will change. I hope I can keep up some kind of blogging as I feel like this blog has become an important part of who I am, so I don't want to let it go.
I've been very lucky to have a healthy pregnancy and have been feeling very well. I've enjoyed being pregnant and also dressing during pregnancy, though it will be a novelty to get back to wearing some of my old favourites again - whenever that may be.
Pregnancy dressing has really made me think about how many clothes I actually need. I feel like I want to take a step back from my usual approach of 'Get Pattern-Find Fabric-Make Garment' and think about what colours I like to wear and the shapes that suit me, and consider the overall look I want to achieve. I don't really know what my style is, though I have an idea of the colours I wear frequently, the skirt/dress shapes that suit my body shape and the accessories I like to wear. However I know this may be subject to change post-pregnancy so I'll need to take some time to think about it.
Before I was pregnant, I wasn't aware of how much I would feel like public property as a pregnant woman. I mean, it's not something you can hide for the whole 9 months, unless you have a lot of strategically-placed, stomach-hiding items around your home and office. Thankfully I haven't had any unwarranted bump-touching, but people do tend to comment on your appearance. Now I'd never thought much about this before because being pregnant is not like being overweight and having people comment about that. However it IS still commenting on your appearance, and that can be disconcerting at times.
You have no control over the development of your bump and just like how everyone has a unique pregnancy and birth experience, everyone develops at a different pace. I've found that how I feel about any comments about my size depend on who the commenter is, how well I know them and the frequency I've heard that same thing before. Plus, you know, all the extra hormones you've got buzzing about can make you take things to heart a little more. So an innocent comment in the early days of 'Oh, you're still so small' makes you think 'OH MY GOD, THE BABY MIGHT NOT BE DEVELOPING PROPERLY'. Nope, that's just the way it is. I haven't necessarily minded people telling me that I've got big, it all depends on the context of the comments.
People have different opinions on whether you are actually big or small. One person will tell you, 'Oh, your bump is so neat' and the next person will say 'You've got so big but you haven't put on any weight anywhere else, so that's all baby isn't it? Have they told you you're having a big baby?' That second comment was actually said to me and I'm still marvelling over the stupidity of the person who said it. She actually has got kids, so you think she might remember that everyone is different and also bear in mind that she works for the council, not as an obstetrician. Idiot.
Also, women LOVE to tell you their stories. Wow, do they love to tell you their stories. Now, I totally understand this because having a baby is likely the biggest thing that will ever happen to your life, emotions and body and is something I can't yet fully comprehend. However I think people sometimes forget how overwhelming this can be, no matter how well meaning they are. I don't mean just in relaying gory details but just in the amount of information you can get bombarded with. It can be really stressful. There is so much to learn about, but I need to do it in my own time and the only occasions I have been stressed during pregnancy have been as a result of these information bombarding episodes.
All in all, the best thing to say to a pregnant woman is 'You look great' and if you have advice to share, offer to give it only when she wants to hear it. You cannot go wrong with that. I know that even the dumb comments are well meaning, in their own misguided way, and happily the vast majority of people are really lovely and love to ask how far along you are and about baby names and comment that you are looking well. Thank goodness.
p.s Very glad I'm not Kate Middleton, with details of my pregnancy being endlessly scrutinised in the press.
p.p.s I have 2 shoddily-made jersey skirts to blog about, when I get around to taking photos